People give a variety of reasons for wanting to be in a relationship. For some it is an escape from loneliness. For others it is to have a family. Many people talk about wanting to find their soulmate. What many people do not realize initially is that they have very little idea of what they will experience in a relationship.
The early stages of a relationship tend to be a honeymoon period. This is the time when the hormones are flowing and expectations are high. We tend to be carefree and our troubles are few. At some point we start to become concerned about some of our partner’s traits and begin to question if this is the person with whom we want to spend our life.
Just because the infatuation stage does not last and we feel disappointed what follows is not necessarily a sign that we made a bad decision. Very often it is just the natural progression of a relationship that reflects someone else’s character traits that can be a mirror showing us what needs to be changed in ourselves. This is a common experience for many couples.
This is what I refer to as the spiritual aspect of a relationship. It is the aspect of a relationship which reveals the lessons we are here to learn and what we might need to change about ourselves. Of course there are some things like being abused or being disrespected that are not reasonable ways to be treated over time. However, if you are able to identify certain patterns that consistently occur in your life this might be a sign that something about you needs to change.
I welcome your comments and questions.
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By: Matt
I completely agree. In addition, I think people are so used to the unrealistic perceptions given in movies, books, and from what they have heard growing up. This perception makes them unprepared for the trials and tribulations of a given relationship. Perspective is huge in a relationship as well as knowing you are with someone that is willing to be open minded, adapt and grow with you. Of course, there is a lot more, but I think this is an important glimpse of understanding too.
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